There is a deep part of us that aches for more. More success, more joy, more health and more meaning. Although we’ve been taught that these desires are egoic, they are actually natural and soulful.
We were born to evolve and grow, and the part of us that wants more is seeking meaning as much as it is money, purpose as well as profit, and self-worth as much as success.
The key to maximizing the quest for more is to focus on mindset.
Mindset is about being consciously aware of our thoughts while directing the mind to focus on where we want to go rather than what we’re afraid of.
Yet for most of us, our mind wanders aimlessly and is cluttered with self-defeating chatter. Replacing that chatter with a focused mindset (one we consciously direct) will ensure goals are realized.
Consider these Mindset Tools to achieve goals and overcome obstacles, accepting massive setbacks along the way as part of the journey:
1) Clarity is the Compass:
It is impossible to achieve success without knowing what you want and why you want it.
Define what you want in the clearest of terms. Clarity is not the same as being specific.
Specific is a number on the scale or a clothing size. Clarity is why you want to lose weight in the first place: to be healthy and fit.
Rather than a specific income or career goal, why do you want more success? A clear goal would be financial freedom, or a career where I make a difference or an employer where I am valued.
Set intentions from a place of clarity, rather than focus on specifics.
Clarity motivates. Know what you want and why you want it.
2) Mindset is the Map:
Believe it or not, we can choose our thoughts and emotions. If the voice in your head is full of critical nonsense, you can train yourself to release those thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts and emotions.
Several years ago, I was introduced to a game-changing book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. The book explains what that voice in our head is about and how to release the thoughts and emotions that don't serve our desires. If self-talk is defeating you, this is the book to release you from those chains.
3) Recommit Repeatedly:
One of the biggest challenges to real transformation is that we don't understand the difference between a decision and a choice.
Decisions are well thought out, made with the best of intentions, and usually focused on longer term goals. Career, financial, and health are examples of decisions.
Choices, however, are made in the now, and are usually driven by emotions. What food I eat today, whether I exercise, if I spend or save...these are examples of choices.
For example: I can decide to get fit this year, but if I don't choose to eat healthy and exercise every day, then my goal will slip away.
Whatever your goal, set your mind (and a daily calendar reminder!) to make choices daily that are aligned with goals!
4) Setbacks Strengthen:
Our actions determine our level of success with any endeavor. Intentions are an integral part of success, but we still have to take inspired action to achieve goals.
And that is where most resolutions go astray: between the intent and the action.
Whatever your goal, setbacks are likely to happen because life has a way of throwing curve balls and sometimes actions are not always aligned with goals.
Maybe we allowed our emotions to get in the way, or daily stress caused us to make choices not in alignment with the decision.
This is called a setback, and honestly, it's a healthy part of all success.
When setbacks occur, release the tendency to judge yourself. Then make a note of why you made a choice that was out of alignment with your intent, and commit to choose again, more wisely.
Setbacks can strengthen, IF you release the tendency to judge yourself (which leads to a defeated mindset), and instead consciously choose to learn from the setback.
Mindset is about training your mind to move toward the things you want, and away from self-defeating habits that keep you from achieving your desires.
Remember...our soul is designed for more. That ache inside is real. Never settle for anything other than your soul’s desire.
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